Grief And The Holidays Publishing Guidelines: You have permission to publish this article electronically or in print, free of charge, as long as the resource box is included with a live link to my site. A courtesy copy of your publication would be appreciated. ***********************************************************Title: GRIEF AND THE HOLIDAYSAuthor: Email: mailto:editor@overcoming-depression.comcopyright: by Web Address: http://www.Overcoming-Depression.comWord Count: 422Category: Coping With Grief And The HolidaysGRIEF AND THE HOLIDAYSThe bring grief to an all new height for those who are suffering from losses or struggle with depression, anxiety, chronic illness or other such disorders. This newsletter is for those who suffer and for those who love them.If it's a merry Christmas for you, please take a moment to forward this, or print it off the article and give to a friend or family member in need.This will be an action-based holiday survival guide. Let's begin...1. PLAN AHEAD - Don't allow the to simply happen. Plan ahead for the best outcome.2. PERFORM AT YOUR ABILITY - Accept your limitations and don't beat yourself up for not having the Christmas you think you "ought" to have.3. CUT OUT OR CREATE NEW RITUALS - If specific rituals are too painful, leave them out this year. Add a new holiday ritual.4. ASK FOR HELP - Reach out to others for help shopping, cooking, wrapping etc.5. VOCALIZE YOUR NEEDS - Tell folks you're struggling. Be specific about how they can help.6. BE HUMAN - You may assume things will be fine, and suddenly a song brings back memories... then pain. Feel the pain. Tears are an honest expression of love and sadness. It's okay. It's also okay to shift plans in the moment if needed.7. MEMORIALIZE YOUR LOVED ONE - Make a donation to a charity in honor of your loved one who has died. If you're depressed, make a donation to mental health research through NAMI.8. TALK ABOUT THE DECEASED - It's healthy and normal to tell stories about the deceased.9. KEEP GOOD COMPANY - Choose to be around folks you feel safe and comfortable with during the holiday season.10. BE WARY OF QUICK FIXES - Folks who hurt are particularly vulnerable during the holidays. Watch out for alcohol and drug abuse, over-spending etc.11. PRACTICE GUIDE - Make a list of all the gifts your loved one brought
A gift from Iona Iona Flavell, aged 12, raised 175 sterling for the victims of the Asian Tsunami. Today (7th April 2005) she presented a cheque for that amount to Lt. Col Ian Joiner of the Aldershot Rotary Club which will be put towards the cost of the replacement fishing boats. The first boat will be named IONA in recognition of such a big effort from a young girl. The School of Electrical and Mechanical Engineering (SEME) donate 6,000 sterling to Ex. Shrivenham Spirit SEME are the training school for the Royal Electrical and Mechanical Engineers (REME) of the British Army. Earlier this year SEME undertook a rowing marathon to raise money for the victims of the Asian Tsunami. MALABAR YACHT CLUB - new club facility the club house for the MYC is now complete. The building has 4 good sized guest rooms each with a/c and on-suite bathroom. Pictures are in the gallery. Guests are now welcome - contact us for latest rates. The Kondo Syokai Bouken Project gets underway with Exercise Shrivenham Spirit the first UK Forces Adventure Training Exercise in Kerala (Ex. Shrivenham Spirit) is building a replacement fishing boat for the victims of the Asian Tsunami - reported here in the Malayalam Manorama news and here in the Hindu Update on Asian Tsunami Boats the first replacement boat for the Asian Tsunami is now out of the mold. Paid for by the Rotarians of Aldershot, UK, this is a 9M vessel. She will be named IONA after the 12 year old daughter of Lt. Col Alan Flavell who by herself raised nearly 200 sterling towards the cost. See here and click on Boats for the Tsunami link for pictures. Asian Tsunami following our narrow escape from the effects of the tsunami, Kondo Syokai is trying to help fishing families in Tamil Nadu and Kerala. See here for details. ROSA in the News Reporters from The Hindu (India's largest circulation English newspaper) and the New Indian Express visited Kondo Syokai today (26th November 2004) and were shown around ROSA, the Malabar Yacht Club's first yacht. Articles appeared in the press and on the web. Ganso-Kiso the "base" Gazelle from Kondo Syokai and the lowest cost of all the Kondo Syokai Gazelles.
In response to enquiries and suggestions the specification of Ganso-Kiso has been re-written. Now she really is a practical sail-away Gazelle for less than the price of a kit-boat. Ganso-Kiso is the door to the experience and benefit of journeying under sail. First pictures of ROSA under sail the first gazelle for the Malabar Yacht Club, ROSA, was sailed in the backwaters this week (17th October). This was simply to carry out a few preliminary checks prior to starting sea trials proper (scheduled for 30th October). It also provided an opportunity to get a few good pictures. MALABAR YACHT CLUB the first gazelle for the MYC is launched today 7th October 2004. The ribbon was cut by Mr David Pyle, Sales Director of Princess Yachts International PLC. This is a stunning vessel, the KS team have worked hard to get her ready for showing at the Indian International Boat Show this weekend. Pictures of the yacht can be viewed here. SOUTH INDIA - Practical, Affordable, Yacht Ownership for those of you who live in an area with cold and miserable winters from November to March this is just the tonic. Now you really can afford to own and keep a 50' yacht in one of the most fascinating places of the world - and at the same time escape the misery of winter. The KS Boatyard is now able to offer wooden boat building
So you think all steel boats look the same? Think again! the KS Boatyard produces an unbelieveable mirror finish using International and DuPont coatings. Launch date set for Gazelle No.1 7th of March is the date that the first Gazelle will be put in the water Auxillary Finalised The decision was taken to fit the Simpson S 217 25.5 bhp diesel engine mated to a ZF 12M reduction gear as our standard item. Boatyard Visits Boatyard visits are also a great holiday opportunity - check out the Prospective Buyers Visit Package for more details and see the new images of the boatyard on the Boatyard Visit page
to the world. Keep these close by. Or make a list of all things you're grateful for in your life.12. BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF - Practice the love towards yourself that Christ taught us.Please allow for your humanness, for fluctuations in your mood. If you are suffering, you're working with much less physical and emotional energy than most. Remember, grieving is nature's way of healing mind, body and spirit. Allow yourself access to grief, while your wounds heal. You'll be up and running again when it's time.May God's healing arms wrap you up throughout the holidays..
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